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MCK's avatar

I spent about a week in Finland this summer, visiting my host sister from when I was an exchange student there in 1978. Our family structures are completely different: I was a SAHM to three kids, very close in age, now grown, while my husband worked full-time. I'll never forget the exhaustion I felt when the kids were toddlers and the lack of support I received from my own church (Catholic) when one of the kids was having some problems. I was completely alone until I found a preschool that accepted special needs and non-special needs kids. My host sister is one of the matriarchs (with fair power to the men in the family) of a large extended/blended family of her own children, the children of her partner, her step-children and step-grandchildren, and so on. We talked about all these issues at length, and it was clear that she and the other moms in the family always had support while raising their kids. Because of the fluid nature of their family structure, there was ALWAYS someone they could call to step in when things got rough, someone got sick, etc. We could stand to learn from the Finns and similar cultures if we'd be willing to open our minds to other ways of doing things.

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Elizabeth Schreiter's avatar

What a wonderful interview! In addition to Tia's book (which I'm very interested in checking out), I highly recommend the docuseries Shiny Happy People: Duggar Family Secrets in which she and a number of other survivors of Bill Gothard's teachings bravely share their horror stories living under the indoctrination he promoted. Moreover, it's shocking to see how much of it has seeped into more mainstream Christianity and American culture in general thanks to the Duggars' TV specials and series.

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