Gay bars, cashmere sweaters, and MenoTok

Plus two takes on Harry and Meghan

How are we all doing? I’m trying to cram as much work in as possible this week so I can start the workweek post-break not feeling as unprepared and disorganized as I typically do. But almost any time I find myself with all MUST DO work stuff completed, I tend to float around my house doing entirely optional domestic work instead of taking care of my future self by, you know, not procrastinating and doing shit in advance. Do I want to outline an essay that won’t be published until January or do I want to fold laundry (while listening to a podcast)? Obviously I want the podcast every time.

Reading

I enjoyed the movie Carol and I enjoy everything Frankie de la Cretaz writes, so it’s no surprise that I enjoyed Frankie’s piece about the maternal tragedy undergirding what’s been meme-ified as a beloved queer romance.

I felt as desperate as Carol did when she pulled out a gun and aimed it at a man. The custody case was like having the rug pulled out from under me in the most violent way. The message was loud and clear: You cannot leave this cis, straight marriage and go unpunished.

I always appreciate when momfluencers known primarily for their aspirational aesthetics and artistry tackle the hard stuff. Understanding that we are all victims of misogynistic healthcare policies (whether or not our lives seem perfect and enviable from the outside!) is so important.

Did you all follow this scammy scandal when it came out?