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Becky Karush's avatar

This is exactly how I felt. “His inability to discuss holistic options left me feeling stranded, alone, and desperate.” My kid would never nap when he was just with me. I was losing my mind. The only advice I EVER got, from the Waldorfians to the sleep experts, was to 1) figure it out fast because the problem could turn into a “real ball of snakes”; 2) make a plan and follow it!; 3) go to another part of the house where the baby and I wouldn’t feel each other’s anxiety and I wouldn't hear the baby crying (besides being useless advice, it’d only work if you had a big friggin house); and 4) relax because it would settle out by and by. I’m still angry. It was a hard problem. Nobody knew what to do—but with freaked-out new moms, I think there’s this awful, irresistible power trip to Know More, to nod wisely, gaze at the horizon, opine, and despise the mom a little bit because you’re so glad you’re not the postpartum loser, or the helpless partner, this time.

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Virginia Sole-Smith's avatar

Wait but dying to know which FUCKING BOOK he thought was going to solve everything???

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