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Lucy's avatar

I also wanted to make that spinach cheese strata from Smitten Kitchen, but I work at a school that does not have a Christian-based winter break and am therefore only now approaching its end of quarter. Therefore, I am not cooking. Or rather, I should be grading rather than cooking, though I did volunteer to bake a bunch of cookies for some students farewell party. I don’t like how conservatives have co-opted traditional femininity. Liberal women should also do the makeup tutorials and the cooking videos, if that’s what they want to do. I mean, yeah, patriarchy probably did brainwash me into having an affinity with domestic hobbies that I can do with or in service of my children, but I still like cooking, baking, and crafting (I specifically have sewing and sashiko aspirations), but I enjoy them nevertheless. I am still going to advocate for men (specifically my husband) to wash dishes, watch their children, and be in charge of their own siblings’ Christmas cards.

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I feel so seen here. I am a SAHM to a 2.5 yo and a 9 month old. I have a masters in English Lit and I double majored in English and gender studies in undergrad. I NEVER saw myself staying at home until I had my daughter and realized I didn’t want to go back to work yet/it didn’t really make financial sense.

When she started eating, I threw myself into making her food from scratch and all that jazz, and it wasn’t because I think it’s the best way to feed your kid, but because I needed something to occupy my brain space.

I could give more examples of how this piece resonated with me (division of labor, spousal relationship, feminist outrage at needing to defend my life as a SAHM) but mostly I just want to say thank you!! It’s validating and affirming to read something that so closely mirrors my own experience.

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