Great conversation! “We’ve all been fed this fairy tale, but it’s such bullshit, right?” - damn right, along with some toxic shit too. I found a toddler picture of me wearing pj’s with the message “Lock me up. I’m yours,” written all over them. And a picture of a male-looking padlock locking himself to the passive female-looking one.
The idea of being locked up with anyone sounds horrible. I love the idea Jo mentioned about actively choosing each other every 7 or so years to grow with each other rather than stagnate.
I’ve been married since I was 19, and we're still choosing to be married because we’ve given ourselves enough breathing space to grow, even grow apart on some things. And that’s okay, because with growth, change, AND choice, finding new ways of connecting is possible too.
Great conversation! “We’ve all been fed this fairy tale, but it’s such bullshit, right?” - damn right, along with some toxic shit too. I found a toddler picture of me wearing pj’s with the message “Lock me up. I’m yours,” written all over them. And a picture of a male-looking padlock locking himself to the passive female-looking one.
The idea of being locked up with anyone sounds horrible. I love the idea Jo mentioned about actively choosing each other every 7 or so years to grow with each other rather than stagnate.
I’ve been married since I was 19, and we're still choosing to be married because we’ve given ourselves enough breathing space to grow, even grow apart on some things. And that’s okay, because with growth, change, AND choice, finding new ways of connecting is possible too.
This was a fascinating read!