I feel like Moms have to say they are busy or they will be frowned upon. But, busy is a very relative term with some moral value attached. (It’s the moral/societal opposite of lazy) and it never fails to piss me off. Yes, I’m busy but it’s out of necessity with a FT job, 3 kids under 10 and general life responsibilities and THE LACK OF A SAFETY NET IF SOMETHING GOES WRONG. Molecular exhaustion is a more apt description for me.
I feel like Sara wrote recently (it's now 11/23) about Botox and I can't find it but I found this older post (right around the time i-weigh podcast interviewed the spectacular Jessica DeFino). The reason I went searching for the recent Botox commentary was having read the other day in Burnt Toast a reader Q/A about speaking with a daughter about weight loss in which V S-S wrote: "But you should also explain that when we try to lose weight to please other people, we’re actually upholding an entire system of bias and making it harder for everyone to feel safe in their bodies." Aren't women who engage with the injectables/lasers, etc doing the same thing? Sure, we may please ourselves looking younger, but isn't that internalized misogyny/age compression? At what point do we take a stand about invasive aesthetic procedures "what you are doing is wrong and will have a hurtful ripple effect, keep women beholden to an industry and is reinforcing the patriarchy"? I would like to understand where we say that Feminism gives us choice and bodily autonomy and when we say stop - you are upholding the system? And isn't it privileged women who use these procedures under the guise of "my body, my choice' and are thus leaving less privileged women behind to get even farther behind various realims? To contextualize: I am 58 and can afford anything available.
I feel like Moms have to say they are busy or they will be frowned upon. But, busy is a very relative term with some moral value attached. (It’s the moral/societal opposite of lazy) and it never fails to piss me off. Yes, I’m busy but it’s out of necessity with a FT job, 3 kids under 10 and general life responsibilities and THE LACK OF A SAFETY NET IF SOMETHING GOES WRONG. Molecular exhaustion is a more apt description for me.
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I feel like Sara wrote recently (it's now 11/23) about Botox and I can't find it but I found this older post (right around the time i-weigh podcast interviewed the spectacular Jessica DeFino). The reason I went searching for the recent Botox commentary was having read the other day in Burnt Toast a reader Q/A about speaking with a daughter about weight loss in which V S-S wrote: "But you should also explain that when we try to lose weight to please other people, we’re actually upholding an entire system of bias and making it harder for everyone to feel safe in their bodies." Aren't women who engage with the injectables/lasers, etc doing the same thing? Sure, we may please ourselves looking younger, but isn't that internalized misogyny/age compression? At what point do we take a stand about invasive aesthetic procedures "what you are doing is wrong and will have a hurtful ripple effect, keep women beholden to an industry and is reinforcing the patriarchy"? I would like to understand where we say that Feminism gives us choice and bodily autonomy and when we say stop - you are upholding the system? And isn't it privileged women who use these procedures under the guise of "my body, my choice' and are thus leaving less privileged women behind to get even farther behind various realims? To contextualize: I am 58 and can afford anything available.